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New-York Rape Victim Narrates Incident On Instagram Minutes After It Happened

Darpan News Desk, 08 Jan, 2016 12:56 PM
    A New-York based activist alleged that she was raped in a youth hostel in South Africa while on her ‘Stop Rape. Educate’ campaign. 
     
    Minutes after the incident, she live-blogged it in an Instagram post. Narrating the details, she said she “kissed him once” and agreed to “take a shower” with him but he forced himself on her.
     
    The 27-year-old posted a picture of herself crying in the shower with harrowing description.
     
     
    Narrating the sequence of events, the activist said she had been sick for two days and was in desperate need of a hot water shower because her place of residence only provided cold water. The man, with whom she had met before, invited her and she agreed. Later he “forced me to my knees,” she writes. “I said ‘stop’ but he just got more violent,” she added.
     
     
     

     

    It was only a few minutes ago but sometimes these things happen so fast it's hard to remember all the details.... I've been sick for the past 2 days and today was my first day out. I went back to my old hostel to leave a note for a friend, Nick.

    There was another guy there, Shakir, who was desperately trying to get with me. I kissed him once but he seemed drunk so I told him it was bad timing, I had already met someone. Before heading out, I went upstairs to say hi to one more friend, Clyde from the states. Shakir followed me upstairs and said he was going to take a shower. He invited me to join. I said yes because the water at my current hostel is pretty cold and after 2 days of being sick, I just really wanted a hot shower. As soon as I got in the bathroom, he forced me to my knees. I said "stop!" but he just got more violent. He lifted me up and put his penis in my vagina. I asked him to stop, again, as I began to cry. When he shoved it in my ass, that's when I passed out. I woke up a few minutes later and saw him trying to creep out the door. When he saw that I was awake, he came back to finish me off in the shower. I have all those fucked up feelings that we get after rape...shame, disgust, suffering. I'm here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feeling sicker than ever now. Needless today, I'm going to disappear for a bit. Just need to enjoy the freaking sun and call my friends and family in the states. Love you guys. Thank you for always being there for me. All the more reason to continue @stoprapeeducate but not today. Today, I need rest. #StopRapeEducate

    A photo posted by Amber Amour (@ambertheactivist) on

     
     
    The activist went on with her campaign with the feeling of “shame, disgust, suffering.” “I’m here, alone, and any DNA has been wiped away in the shower. The South African police will just roll their eyes when I walk in. Feel sicker than ever now.”
     
    Explaining why she posted the picture on social media, the activist told Marie Claire UK, “Here I was, telling survivors every single day that they should speak up… I knew I had to practice what I preached, so the first thing I did was take a picture and write a post, describing what had happened.”
     
    A lot of people on social media asked her various question pertaining to the incident. “Why would you not call the cops,” asked one to which she answered. “Reporting rape is almost as traumatic as the rape itself. You are constantly reliving it, the doctor inserts objects inside of you for the rape kit, and then you’re subject to victim-blaming comments and questions. 
     
    These are only a few reasons why many stay silent and I understand every single reason from the bottom of my heart.”
    “Why would go into a shower with him,” asked another and she responded that agreeing for shower does not mean agreeing for sex.
     
    Later, she posted a picture of herself in a hospital with a rape kit and announced that she had reported the crime. “The US Embassy and the South African police are super supportive and he may be arrested as soon as this week,” she wrote.

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