Close X
Wednesday, December 11, 2024
ADVT 
Interesting

What is love bombing?

Darpan News Desk IANS, 15 Dec, 2022 01:40 PM
  • What is love bombing?

Photo courtesy of IStock. 

Have you ever dated someone and had that feeling that this is too good to be true? He is charismatic, funny, eager to fall in love, and seems to already be planning a future with you. But, then that voice in your head says "something's wrong here". Yet, you go ahead with dating the person because the other voice in your head takes over. The one that says "but what if it is true!". Two months later the courting has magically disappeared and you're sitting there asking yourself, "where did I go wrong?". The answer? You've just been love bombed.

Shahzeen Shivdasani, relationship expert and a millennial author of the book 'Love, Lust, and Lemons' said, "Love bombing is "the action or practice of lavishing someone with attention or affection, especially to influence or manipulate them".

Let's take a look at how you can recognise these tactics right off the bat! Most love bombers use these methods because they seek validation. They also know that the quicker they get commitment from you and win you over, the lesser the chance you will leave them when you learn about their flaws. Their goal is to make you feel dependent on them and indebted."

When your love can't stop complimenting you and the relationship seems intense! according to Shivdasani, "While flattery builds attraction, these compliments seem a bit over the top. They think you're the most beautiful person they've ever met, they think you are their soulmate, or they've never met anyone like you. The objective here becomes to make you feel like no one ever has. The key here is to rope you in and get you hooked. They want a lot of your time and it seems like courtship which takes a few months is jumping into a serious relationship very fast. What you need to pay attention to here is while most people would love a serious committed relationship, do not fall for the fantasy. How can you commit to someone you barely know?"

Any relationship should have boundaries that respect each other's interests, preferences, and dislikes. Shivdasani offers the following advice if you ever encounter a relationship in which you feel that the boundaries are not being respected. She says, "They don't seem to respect your boundaries. When you are out with friends or family they will constantly call and keep tabs on you. They are overly needy. Pay attention to this because this leads to controlling behavior, fast! The main red flag is when you notice the switch. Love bombers will either leave once they have received the validation they needed from getting you to date them or their flaws start bleeding into the relationship. Some of these flaws include fewer compliments and being more demanding of your attention and controlling behaviour."

A love bomber's approach to love is unhealthy and the truth is all the signs are there from the start. The best way to save yourself from this is the next time you are being courted by someone who seems like they might be a love bomber, ask yourself, why is this person so eager to rush the process? Pay attention to the signs. A love bomber's favorite trick is to make you feel immensely validated.

Don't let your need for validation be the reason you are easily manipulated. Find ways to validate yourself. Because, while fantasies are great, the reality is, you're the only one who can do it!

MORE Interesting ARTICLES

No One Hurt After Trespassing In Rural Alberta Escalates To Gunfight: Police

No One Hurt After Trespassing In Rural Alberta Escalates To Gunfight: Police
Police in northwestern Alberta say a suspect is in custody after a gunfight broke out between a suspected trespasser and a resident of a rural property.

No One Hurt After Trespassing In Rural Alberta Escalates To Gunfight: Police

Kohinoor 'Surrendered' Not Stolen, Says Archaeological Survey of India

The precious gem, which came into British hands during the colonial era, is the subject of a historic ownership dispute and claimed by at least four countries, including India.

Kohinoor 'Surrendered' Not Stolen, Says Archaeological Survey of India

SEE PICS: Couple From B.C. Recreate 'Alien' Birth Scene For Maternity Photo Shoot

Thirty-nine years later, Todd and Nicole Cameron of Nanaimo, B.C., drew inspiration from the film to tell their friends and family that they too will embark on a voyage with a new being.

SEE PICS: Couple From B.C. Recreate 'Alien' Birth Scene For Maternity Photo Shoot

With Love, For Michelle: Barack Obama's Tweet On Wedding Anniversary

With Love, For Michelle: Barack Obama's Tweet On Wedding Anniversary
Former United States President Barack Obama posted a heartfelt message for his wife Michelle Obama on the occasion of their 26th wedding anniversary.

With Love, For Michelle: Barack Obama's Tweet On Wedding Anniversary

Stranded Sturgeon Prompts RCMP River Rescue In British Columbia

Stranded Sturgeon Prompts RCMP River Rescue In British Columbia
Cpl. Mike Rail says there is no need to exaggerate an RCMP fish story on the rescue of a 2.4-metre sturgeon from a landlocked pond near the Fraser River in British Columbia.

Stranded Sturgeon Prompts RCMP River Rescue In British Columbia

WATCH: On Gandhi Jayanti, Mahatma Gandhi's Favourite Bhajan ‘VAISHNAVA JAN TO’ Goes Global

WATCH: On Gandhi Jayanti, Mahatma Gandhi's Favourite Bhajan ‘VAISHNAVA JAN TO’ Goes Global
Artists from over 124 countries paid musical tribute to the 'Father of The Nation' by singing his favourite bhajan 'Vaishnav Jan To Tene Kahiye'. 

WATCH: On Gandhi Jayanti, Mahatma Gandhi's Favourite Bhajan ‘VAISHNAVA JAN TO’ Goes Global