"We always believed that with hard work and heart, anything is possible. It wasn’t just about hockey—it was about teaching Arshdeep to face challenges with courage and to embrace every moment, win or lose."- Kuldip Bains
Harvinder and Kuldip Bains
Parents of Arshdeep Singh Bains
Immigrating from Punjab, India, in 1982, Kuldip Singh Bains and Harvinder Kaur Bains left home to build a fulfilling life in Canada. Settling in Surrey, British Columbia, the family grew, with their kids taking a special interest in hockey, among other games. And that’s where one could see a young Arshdeep metamorphose into the Arshdeep Bains we know now – the fourth Punjabi player to suit up for an NHL game, playing for his home team, the Vancouver Canucks.
Arshdeep’s journey into ice hockey began with his dad taking his older brothers for a fun game at the rink. The rink soon became his favorite spot as he tagged along and eventually fell in love with the sport. With no professional hockey background, both Kuldip and Harvinder’s unwavering support was enough to become the cornerstone of Arshdeep’s success in ice hockey. They embraced the challenges of raising a child in competitive sports, making their way through rigorous training schedules to emotional highs and lows.
Kuldip soon became a regular face at hockey games and practice nights, driving Arshdeep to countless tournaments while also honing his puck-passing skills in their backyard. Harvinder always prioritized emotional support, ensuring that Arshdeep’s love for the game was always at the forefront. Both maintained a delicate balance of independence and encouragement, allowing Arshdeep to learn from his experiences while also believing in his abilities: “After a point, we knew that to fulfill his dream, he needed more rigorous training, something that we couldn’t offer. That’s when we let him get into his groove while always assuring him of our presence in his life, whatever the outcome.”
As Arshdeep advanced from local leagues to the Western Hockey League and eventually to the professional stage, his parents, too, evolved.
Kuldip and Harvinder now focused on instilling resilience and a strong work ethic in him, something they knew would be crucial as he played for international leagues: “While he did face a few setbacks as pressures grew, we always emphasized on blocking out negativity, including social media criticism, all of which is part of the game.”
The Bains also always encouraged Arshdeep to embrace his South Asian heritage and serve as a role model for young athletes in the community, a role he takes very seriously. He is a regular at multiple Punjabi tournaments and makes time for other community events and fundraisers.
Through their support, humility, and dedication, Kuldip and Harvinder have not only guided Arshdeep to become a successful ice hockey player but have also set an inspiring example for families navigating the world of competitive sports.
Q&A
1. How do you ensure that your child’s mental health is prioritized, especially in the high-pressure world of sports?
We’ve always focused on being there for Arshdeep, no matter the outcome of a game. We remind him that it’s okay to have tough days and that we believe in his abilities. We’ve encouraged him to block out negativity and focus on enjoying the game he loves.
2. What has been your biggest success as a parent in this journey?
Seeing Arshdeep become not just a great hockey player but also a grounded and humble individual who values his community is our greatest success. Watching him inspire others is incredibly rewarding.
3. What advice would you give other parents raising young athletes?
Support your child unconditionally and let them enjoy the journey. Don’t push too hard; instead, focus on building their confidence and allowing them to grow at their own pace.
4. What’s a message you’d like to share with young athletes pursuing their dreams?
Work hard, stay focused, and never give up. Challenges are part of the process, but with determination and support, you can achieve your dreams.